Needs
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‘Have you ever even bothered to think about men for a change? I’d like you to understand men better’ Theres a moment at the end of one of my favourite books Paulo Coelho’s ‘Eleven Minutes’ where the main character, ‘the coming of age learning love though prostitution’ Maria is confronted by a man Ralf (The…
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Im learning courage Not the courage to climb, to fight or to be successful Not the courage to be disliked, or happy But the courage to listen to the frightened parts of me The courage to love those parts The parts of me I hid away The part of me that hid away those parts…
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Theres something interesting that happens when you are told as a child messages like: ‘Were not going to spoil you’ ‘He’s asking too much ______ (insert my Dads name)’ ‘No’ ‘You dont need that’ ‘You’re not allowed to ask for this I had it as a child and hated it’ (with reference to music lessons…
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As a youth worker you get to hear alot of stories and moral panics about abusive or absent Dads, and the effect this has on children. It is often in regard to the behaviour of those children, especially in education or criminal contexts. Theres a cry for ‘better role models‘ – assuming that parental role…
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Lying motionless, almost on my small balcony lay a bumble bee in the morning heat today Exhausted Barely clinging on to the edge of the wood, nearly about to drop down a 30ft gap close, to death So I googled what to do and mixed up a combination of water and sugar in a small…
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Don’t you be so selfish You were such a spoiled child, I had to get that out of you Don’t you even dare even ask for that You need to think about things from my point of view Ultimately there is no avoiding this, with psychopathic, emotionally immature parenting, or a situation of emotional abuse,…
James Ballantyne 