shame
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I noticed something the other day, I thought id share it. But lets start at the beginning, well, 2018 to be precise, and I received the understanding of spirituality to be this quadrant I rememeber as I first saw this at a Youthwork conference, and it explained at Spirituality had 4 quadrants. Some people find…
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Will you be brave and give love a chance?
faith, Healing, life, love, Masculinity, mental health, morality, pain, power, relationships, shame, Therapy, truth
One of the reasons we men dont want to deal with our shit is because we dont believe we have the capacity to love ourselves. In many scenarios, whether from driven, neglectful, absent or collusive, abusive parents, Love was absent, and instead rules and expectations. In School, that wasnt the place either. And then there…
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You Can’t force your Jigsaw (But do open the box)
experiences, faith, Guilt, Healing, heart, love, memory, mental health, pain, parts, personal-growth, shame, Trauma, wholeness
Each of us has bits of us that we dont really like. Theres the bits of us that got damaged by our parents or family when we grew up, whether this was abuse, neglect, abandonment, the choices of our parents and the hurts of these. Theres the bits of us in school, the parts where…
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Without question this was my favourite Disney song. My beautiful Auntie Heather, only 10 years older than me, had in her record collection circa 1982 a Disney compilation, as well as probably a whole load of other cool music that I had no idea of (or wasn’t allowed to hear). But the second track on…
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It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if your heart feels heavy wounded, broken, or hard It doesn’t matter if you are acceptable or powerful It doesn’t matter if you are in prison or free It doesn’t matter what you have or what you dont have It doesn’t matter if you are at the beginning or…
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I’ve been pondering on writing this piece for a few days now, wondering if it is suitable, wondering how to express it, especially as it’s kind of simple. Full disclosure, I have been back receiving therapy since October, on that journey of remaking, regrouping and rebuilding. One of the revelations from it, was the simple…
James Ballantyne 