Doing The Hard things

Hey you

Just want to say, well done on doing the hard thing

The hard thing? It was nothing, I just got on with it

You are incredible, that was brave, that was hard

Aww shucks, really, it wasn’t much, anyone could have done it

But you did it, yes you, you are incredible

Now you’re going too far, all I did was the thing

But that’s such an important thing, a first brave thing, I’m proud of you, you did the thing

Yeah, and Im just thankful for all the people who helped me to do the thing, I couldn’t have done it without them

But you still did the thing, you made the call, you made the decision, you did the thing.

I had no choice really, was desperate and there was no way out, I had to do the thing

And you did the thing, at a point of desperation, you did the thing, well done, brave human, you did the thing and now you’re here, you’re alive, you are living, because you did the courageous thing, you changed the pattern to your normal, you did the thing

True, my friend, I did the thing

You the hardest thing, brave, courageous, strong you

I’m just me, anyone couldve done it

But you did it, you did the thing

You did the hard thing, you made it happen

Thank you

Do you see it now?

Maybe, but I don’t think I’m amazing for doing the thing

That’s why I’m here to keep reminding you, you are amazing, you are incredible, you are stronger and more inspiring that you realise. You did the thing.

How many times did I have this conversation in my journey, and I still do. Not seeing how difficult, or how brave I am for doing ‘the thing’ – whether that thing is facing the pain or shame, whether that’s going to therapy, or choosing to listen to my inner voice and respond, or whether it’s taking responsibility for my feelings, or standing up for myself or others.

So many times I wanted someone else to do it for me.

So often before id hidden everything and survived every blow.

Surviving lone as a great result of being counter dependent. Pretending to survive alone.

Doing the hard thing meant changing.

Changing is a hard thing.

Well done you. Just well done you.

You Are an Incredible Human, and so am I.