The letter any Narc Abuse survivor could write.

It changed my entire life when I was able to stand back, to stand in some safe distance from damaging relationships and realise what the patterns were of them. Even now, I have to remember what I know , and remember that I have power because I know, and so, I am writing this for you, for you if you need it when you begin to realise that you have been a genuine victim of someone who is displaying (but would never get tested for) NPD, sociopathy or psychopathy – or a combination of all three. This is for you realise that this knowledge is actually power. Power also that means that you have yourself, you have awareness, you don’t have to play the games, you are, and you are more than their jealous projections.

But this is not about them, this about you, it’s about me, it’s about knowing, and knowing freedom, knowing our strength and the power of the truth that we have . It is time to live. I wrote this letter privately the other day, and by writing it, it gave me power, because then, I knew, I felt, power, and this is is important to have after abuse. Then I realised that the abuse I suffered isnt unique, and neither are the behaviours a Narc makes either, so by sharing this with you, I hope it gives you power too.

Dear They-who-might-not-be named Dark Triad* Abuser,

I know,

I know,

I can see what you do,

I can see the patterns of how you are working

I know how you are constantly trying to cover your tracks

I know your lies,

I know your stories,

I know your strategies,

I know your toxins and your poison.

I know your thirst for power, and how it consumes you.

I know how much you think you have power, and how fragile that is

I know.

I have your lies on paper,

I know how you threaten to silence those who might call you out,

I know how you invalidate others who might say the same,

I know how you manipulate .

I know how you operate from anger and jealousy, and can only verbalise love, compassion or empathy.

I know how you’re clinging onto work, as you have nothing else.

I know your lies.

I know you have delusions instead of truth.

I know that you can’t admit your wrongdoing,

I know that a mirror threatens you, when you dare to look inside,

I know that you have no peace, no joy, no happiness,

I know your love-less existence and how you make this out to be ‘the real world’ ,

I know your whiny voices, that give Harry Potter Headaches.

I know how you have to pretend to care

I know the destruction lies in your wake

I know how you have to tell stories to convince yourself that none of it was you

I know the monkeys who you employ to do your work, as they swing back and forwards, still trapped in your haunted gaze.

I know the monkeys that have inherited your games

I know how the system could only see the pretend version of you.

I know how you have twisted God into your delusions to justify yourself

I know the neediness script that you cling to.

I know your inconsistencies and your self denials

I know your wounded ego

I know your haunted eyes that gaze on power

I know you, and thats more than you know yourself.

I know

I know

I know

I know it all.

I know your games that make you the same as all the others.

I know

I know that this letter could be said about anyone who plays your games,

I know how you fear losing your special status or victim positioning

I know.

And I can have and be all the things that you could never be.

Thank you for the lessons I have had to learn to rid myself of you

Thank you for the projections that I now embrace

Thank you for knowledge that gives me power

Thank you for revealing yourself to me, fully and finally

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to realise who I am

Thank you for my survival story.

Thank you for confirming in your actions what deep down I already knew.

That you were not to be trusted, and not to be true.

So now its time, narc destructor, for me

to let go of the lead again

And let your growling gnashing of teeth scowl within your own created existence.

And its time

For me

To breathe again, finally reminded of my freedom.

And my power

That you wanted to destroy

But I am here.

and I know.

And I am still standing.

And I am Free.

Regards,

Any Narcissist Survivor.