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DARVO; the pattern to get smart on
One of the benefits of being a survivor of emotional domestic abuse is that you can see the patterns of behaviour One of the disadvantage of being a survivor of emotional domestic abuse is that you can see the patterns… Continue reading
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The dawning reality, that your life was a lie
One of the things I have had to come to terms with is that my life as a child was a lie. It took a while and wasn’t the first thing I started to see in the last few years… Continue reading
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Understanding our emotionally immature upbringing and our internal selves (Part 2)
In my last piece I shared a little about how, based on Lindsay Gibsons book, ‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents’ , I coped with this by becoming an internaliser as opposed to reacting to it as an externaliser would. In… Continue reading
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Gratitude as freedom
Following up from Jennis piece about thankfulness as resistance , Christelle and I watched the above talk by Anthony de Mello on Sunday evening. I picked it, with the subject of freedom, as this resonates so much with us all at… Continue reading
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21 Healing messages for 2021
As I start the new year 2021, and having just watched the ‘mid-life awakening’ set to music film that is ‘Rocketman’. I reflect on the learning and healing I have done this year. Looking ahead to 2021 I wondered about… Continue reading
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Nurturing and loving my internalising self (Part 1)
Of the 20 or so books I’ve read this year, the one that made the most impression on me from a healing and therapeutic perspective was ‘Adult children of Emotionally immature Parents’ by Lindsay Gibson (2015). (As an added note… Continue reading
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Brave
‘Grow a backbone will you Bromley, and stop running away’ These were the words that spoke to me, this time when I watched the quite astounding film PRIDE for the umpteenth time a few weeks ago. Brave. ‘You are being… Continue reading
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When ‘Sorry’ seems to be the easiest word
Sorry, for being late Sorry for not being early Sorry for not asking Sorry for asking Sorry for not being good enough for you Sorry that I didnt did everything you expected me to Sorry that Im not smiling today… Continue reading
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Why we’ve got to try and feel our feelings, not think our way out of them
Its easier to say….’I know’ I know that Its easier to say … ‘I think’ I think that Its easier to say …’I am…’ I am annoyed Its easier to say ..’I cant..’ I cant do this anymore Its harder… Continue reading
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Climbing up the healing path of knowledge
However hard it is at times, to respond and cope, the key thing that ive discovered is that is helpful to know. When you just know. When its more than panic more than a feeling. More that knowing that it… Continue reading
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