James
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Hell wasn’t the place I thought it was
Hell wasnt the place I thought it was Not the fire out there But the fear in here. Not eternal damnation, but present accusation, wasn’t the future to be avoiding, but present shame and loathing. Hell wasnt the place I… Continue reading
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Preventing the take-over when the abuser gets in touch
Anyone panic when that message or that text or email arrives? From ‘that’ person? Its like a shock, a reaction, pangs of fear, of guilt and brain on overload… Sometimes it is just better to block them, to avoid this… Continue reading
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The Breadcrumbing tactic
One of the confusing things about growing up and living with someone who is emotionally abusive (and this also applies to physically abusive too), is that they are rarely abusive all the time. Some people are, and that id learned… Continue reading
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On Gareth and the Hug we all need
I feel like there needs to be a broader conversation about men and processing emotions in day to day life, after incidents of violence and racism, and not just during special events like #mentalhealth awareness weeks. If football/alcohol cause the… Continue reading
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The struggle to ‘do’ my own healing work
One of the hardest things for me about rebuilding after trauma is to do it. Its not a linear thing, but I find it fascinating that what I needed in the midst of dealing the traumatic situations was a calm… Continue reading
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Why I’m enjoying Euro 2020: Its because I don’t need it
I realised something the other day, Im quite enjoying the football at Euro 2020 (in 2021, but you know, Covid etc) , and its not just having the crowds back in, or just from yesterdays two thrilling games of 14… Continue reading
