Emotions
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Don’t you be so selfish You were such a spoiled child, I had to get that out of you Don’t you even dare even ask for that You need to think about things from my point of view Ultimately there is no avoiding this, with psychopathic, emotionally immature parenting, or a situation of emotional abuse,…
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I dont deserve to feel warm (Me, aged 9) I cannot remember what I had done. But whatever it was I had been punished for it and then I felt guilt and self loathing afterwards. All your Sins can be removed if you accept Jesus into your life (Childrens worker, John Wilkes, 1989, at my…
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One of the ways of surviving emotionally immature parenting, in fact possibly the only way is to pretend. Because, unless you fit into the role they have for you, you are in trouble. So, even if you don’t want to do something, you have to pretend, you have to lie to yourself. And every time…
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I really have toyed with this one all week, I didn’t want to continue the series on surviving a psychopath parent, because what I needed to do this week was to take stock a bit, and be kind on myself, given that this weekend is Mothers day. And it started to bite in the middle…
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Dont you start playing victim! (because that’s the role I have in mind for myself) I cant cope with… what youve just said, what youve just done…. (you’re expected to alleviate me, not challenge me, you’re supposed to soothe things…) You just need to take more responsibility (thats interesting, because ultimately, I’m taking all…
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Turn up at a church youth group hiding scratch marks under your sleeve, or bruises on your arm, and you are treated as a project, someone who needs attention and even too damaged to be considered useful. Turn up as someone considered ‘mature for their age’, who thinks of others more than themselves, is able…
James Ballantyne 