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The Breadcrumbing tactic
One of the confusing things about growing up and living with someone who is emotionally abusive (and this also applies to physically abusive too), is that they are rarely abusive all the time. Some people are, and that id learned… Continue reading
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On Gareth and the Hug we all need
I feel like there needs to be a broader conversation about men and processing emotions in day to day life, after incidents of violence and racism, and not just during special events like #mentalhealth awareness weeks. If football/alcohol cause the… Continue reading
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The struggle to ‘do’ my own healing work
One of the hardest things for me about rebuilding after trauma is to do it. Its not a linear thing, but I find it fascinating that what I needed in the midst of dealing the traumatic situations was a calm… Continue reading
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Why I’m enjoying Euro 2020: Its because I don’t need it
I realised something the other day, Im quite enjoying the football at Euro 2020 (in 2021, but you know, Covid etc) , and its not just having the crowds back in, or just from yesterdays two thrilling games of 14… Continue reading
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Healing of wounded history : A Prayer
A beautiful blessing on the healing of wounded history ( from John O’Donahue) , that I saw share by Andy Raine and wanted to post here as a gift and reminder to myself. For Someone Awakening To The Trauma of… Continue reading
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When the battle for our mind shifts
You must control your mind Harry, don’t let Voldemort find his way in to control you That was one of the main weapons that Voldemort used to control Harry. He got into his dreams, he got into his mind. He… Continue reading
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Don’t be afraid, of the you inside
Do not be afraid of the you under the skin like a solid orange with a lava interior You are not the labels you gave yourself Someone made you anxious Someone gave you fear Someone gave you shame These are… Continue reading
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Healing: as we slow down
When you are so busy that you feel perpetually chased when your worrying thoughts circle around your head when the future seems dark and uncertain when you are hurt by someone has said Slow down Even for a moment. What… Continue reading
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Surviving Psychopathic Parenting (Part 18) Survival Self talk
I was convinced I was adopted. Or at least, thats what I often kept telling myself, when I pondered things as I walked home from school or time in my bedroom. Im nothing like my parents, I think different, I… Continue reading
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Healing is like an iron clad onion
The first layer is the toughest to crack. It took something major for me, it might do for you To admit, finally. To creak open that iron clad exterior That protector. That protective layer. That thing you’ve been using to… Continue reading
James Ballantyne
The Universe conspires to help the dreamer
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Life is a Journey paved with Love
James Ballantyne 