James
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Is ‘It’s OK for Men to cry’ too simple to say?
Its ok for men to cry Is said often. But I was wondering whether its said too often, without any thought about the complexity of this. I wonder if it’s said too easily. I wonder if women need to hear… Continue reading
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Surviving Psychopathic Parenting (Part 19) The gifts of toxic gratitude
‘You’re just so ungrateful – after all I’ve done for you’ In my previous piece I talked about how my abusive caregiver in the way in which they cooked food, often would create inedible food, that actually could be damaging… Continue reading
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How walking helped to heal me
Maybe each day you should just go for a walk Said my friend who I was staying with after leaving the family home in the midst of my breakdown. By myself? I thought? Without a purpose? Just a walk? Not… Continue reading
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On Comfort Eating, and my relationship with food
If the end to the abuse and pain was at the end of a tunnel made of bread, then I spent most of my first 40 years on this earth trying to eat my way towards that distance unreachable utopia.… Continue reading
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Realising that Now I can be Happy.
If only If only this happened, then I would be Happy If I bought this, I would feel complete If I achieved this..It would bring me wholeness If someone else did well at something – I would be joyful If… Continue reading
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Confession: I was that person who thought self-care was for weak people.
Can I confess something to you? I used to think all this was rubbish too. I fell into a trap of my own doing. Therapy was for weak people Thats what I thought. I didn’t need help, I helped others… Continue reading
James Ballantyne 