Therapy
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Will you be brave and give love a chance?
faith, Healing, life, love, Masculinity, mental health, morality, pain, power, relationships, shame, Therapy, truth
One of the reasons we men dont want to deal with our shit is because we dont believe we have the capacity to love ourselves. In many scenarios, whether from driven, neglectful, absent or collusive, abusive parents, Love was absent, and instead rules and expectations. In School, that wasnt the place either. And then there…
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As men, we’ve been conditioned for generations to believe that strength means suppressing our emotions. We’re told that being tough, stoic, and unshakable is the ideal. We’re encouraged to “man up,” to push through pain, to avoid vulnerability, and to believe that needing help is a weakness. This outdated notion is not only damaging to…
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I did something this week that I’ve never done before. I googled, no, I read the wikipedia article on c-ptsd. Here it is: c-PTSD Because, not for the first time in my last few years, it has been something that my partner at the time identified that I might have, or be in the midst of…
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On two separate occasions when I was disclosing to the relevant authorities the abusive behaviour of my mother, I was asked the following question. ‘Why are you doing this now?’ It was 25 years since I had left the family home, and been a terrified abused child. Though her behaviour was still the same even…
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I have waited a full year to tell you this story. It’s a personal one, but I hope a good one, and please do bear with the length of it, grab yourself a coffee or tea and strap in. Maybe many of you have been reading my work for a while, if you go back…
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Why I dont like being a Victim (Its Complicated)
James Ballantyne 